Rural singles dating
Single adults range from the 18 year old that still lives at home to the 29 year old single parent who has never been married to the divorced dad with grown kids to the 58 never married now taking care of their mom to the 68 widower who lives alone. 1) Look at your existing membership/attendance rolls and see who is not married.It’s not that you don’t have single adults in your church or community; it’s how to reach them. Categorize by age, past marital status, if they have kids that live at home or grown, etc.I know this might be a shock to you considering the churches numbers do not reflect this.This is because we are not doing what is needed to reach them.2) Contact your town/city and find out the demographics of those living within a 5 mile radius.Once you find out this information, it will help you in the direction of how to reach them.While there are several large churches that have a singles pastor or director and are doing a great job in reaching and growing single adults, most churches do not.Most churches give various excuses such as: We don’t have any single adults.
But didn’t Jesus use these ways to minister so he could get to the person’s heart?
And if they do find their spouse at your church, why would that be so horrible?
The key to all of this is a solid foundation, structure, communication, building leaders and so on. You can start with my ministry, The Singles Network.
You have to learn how to keep your ministry going by growing leaders, expecting turnover, and change. I need to just focus on the traditional families like mine.
I know it so much easier to just focus on what you know versus what you don’t know. I have never been married nor have children, yet I continue to have them cross my path as I lead singles. You build a team, a staff, and/or hire a pastor or director that does care and understands single adults. I realize hiring a pastor or director does cost money.
After several years of serving on various single’s ministry leadership teams as well as starting my own, God called me to help others do the same.