Single mother dating again
I couldn’t bring myself to have kids in a marriage where doing so would obliterate any chance I had to build something for myself.
You don’t have to be single if you don’t want to be, Loriann.Maybe I’ll cross paths with the man of my dreams in the grocery store, but that doesn’t seem like something I should pin my hopes on. Giving up feels like beginning a process of grieving the loss of a dream I’ve had as long as I can remember.I am caught between thinking that, on the one hand, the grief, although hard, would at least end the misery and hopefully take me to a place where I can just be satisfied with the rest of my life (which is pretty great), and still feeling, on the other hand, that love is a basic human need, so cutting myself off from what still seems like the likeliest path to getting there will only end up stunting my life in the long run. Do I forge ahead with online dating and hope that it really is a numbers game and that someday mine will actually come up?Dear Polly, I’ve been thinking a lot lately about giving up dating, and more – giving up on the idea that there is someone out there for me.I’m 43, and my whole life, the thing I wanted most in the world was to fall in love — the stay-up-talking-about-everything-and-anything, close-down-the-bar, always-know-you’re-in-my-corner kind of love, but it just hasn’t ever happened. I was married for ten years to a good person who tried very hard to be a good husband. I loved him in large part because I felt like he was the kind of guy I should marry. I made elaborate dinners and sewed curtains and kept track of appointments.